All you need to know about senior sexuality

Let’s put a stop to the clichés: your libido doesn’t disappear when you hit retirement, some seniors even report a second flush of youth in their sex lives. So ignoring all and any taboos, let’s explore the finer points of senior sexuality...

Do many seniors maintain sexual relations?

Though desires can shift and change over time, sexuality remains an undeniable source of complicity and pleasure in senior relationships. According to a study in the French magazine Le Figaro in 2012, two thirds of men and one third of women over 70 are still sexually active. (1)

For the sexually inactive seniors, the issue is not the absence of desire, but more the trouble of accepting the physical changes… So how do you make sure you’re in the best possible shape to start blossoming again? Read on to find out how....

What are the biggest problems senior Men encounter?

It’s natural, there’s nothing to be ashamed of! The reason why the erection takes longer to develop is only because as they get older, the tissues in the penis become less elastic. (2)

You can also get troubles with the beginning of climacteric (an androgenic deficiency that leads to a drop in testosterone levels). As a consequence, the libido drops, and erections are a little more difficult to instigate. When faced with this kind of issue, it’s important not to focus on the clock, but to be patient and take your time to enjoy foreplay. You can always look for a helping hand and use stimulating gels like Indécent.  For those men who fail to manage erections despite multiple attempts, some alternatives may exist : touching, caressing and foreplay rather than penetrative sex. Also bear in mind that a prostate massage can give you some inestimable pleasures. According to the French sexologist Alain Héril, the prostatic orgasm is a pleasure felt from “the inside”. An unusual feeling, and more global than ejaculation.

Sadly for some seniors, it’s impossible to get an erection, no matter how much patience or excitement is involved. These kind of problems can often lead to physiological problems, so it’s important to consult a medical professional when necessary.

What are the biggest problems senior Women encounter?

For women, it is not your body, but your hormones which are most disrupted by the menopause. Vaginal dryness can make your sexual relations harder. Don’t hesitate to use lubricants which will aid the excitement as well as penetration. A drop of water and Encore Mieux silicone lubricant and it’s time to go for naughty cuddles, no matter what your age! Do whatever you feel to make yourself pretty. Wearing sexy lingerie will help you to feel beautiful and desirable. Also, don’t forget that men have very powerful visual senses - light lingerie will only help to heighten their desire. For women, psychologic and personal factors play a major role in presence of desire. Complexes linked to bodily ageing, weight issues, uneasiness and depression are a few of the components that can disturb senior female libido. In these cases, the role played by the partner is essential. If you think the lack of libido is linked to a psychological or hormonal factor, it is again recommended that you visit a medical specialist.

There’s no age limit to desire

As the years go by, sexual excitement can take longer to develop and the path from desire to orgasm can be significantly slower, but desire remains the same.  Senior sexuality is not characterised by performance anymore, but by sensuality and pleasure. Consider yourself a senior? Gather your friends for a Soft Paris Party, where an advisor will help you to discover the right accessories to develop a flourishing intimate life, no matter what your age!